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I am an Ultra-Conservative, Alpha-Male, True Authentic Leader, Type "C" Personality, who is very active in my community; whether it is donating time, clothes or money for Project Concern or going to Common Council meetings and voicing my opinions. As a blogger, I intend to provide a different viewpoint "The way I see it!" on various world, national and local issues with a few helpful tips & tidbits sprinkled in.

Denial is Not a River in Egypt


Step 1 - Denial


Step 2 - Anger


Denial is a defense mechanism postulated by Sigmund Freud, in which a person is faced with a fact that is too uncomfortable to accept and rejects it instead, insisting that it is not true despite what may be overwhelming evidence.


Denial of fact


In this form of denial, someone avoids a fact by lying.  This lying can take the form of an outright falsehood (commission), leaving out certain details to tailor a story (omission), or by falsely agreeing to something (assent, also referred to as "yessing" behavior). 


Someone who is in denial of fact is typically using lies to avoid facts they think may be painful to themselves or others.


Denial of responsibility


This form of denial involves avoiding personal responsibility by:


blaming - a direct statement shifting culpability and may overlap with denial of fact

minimizing - an attempt to make the effects or results of an action appear to be less harmful than they may actually be, or

justifying - when someone takes a choice and attempts to make that choice look okay due to their perception of what is "right" in a situation.


Someone using denial of responsibility is usually attempting to avoid potential harm or pain by shifting attention away from themselves.


For example:


Troy breaks up with his girlfriend because he is unable to control his anger, and then blames her for everything that ever happened.


Type A denial is when a person sees, understands, and knows that they have a definite problem.  When confronted about the problem they flat out deny it, knowing that it is true.  This type of denial is outright dishonesty or lying.


Type B denial is when a person is either partially or totally blind to a problem that they have.  Through a hundred forms of self-deception, rationalization, justification and excuse making, a person can actually believe that they do not have a problem, when everyone around them sees this it is obvious.  This type of denial comes from being honestly dishonest or by blindness. 


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